October 2013 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Article – Is your Family Different?
Final Thoughts


The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
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Author Kimberly Chastain


I just want to let you know how thankful I am for all of you CWMs and your graciousness in allowing me to visit your email box twice a month. After all these years I would like to say there has been a lot of progress in the support of CWMs, but I’m sad to say I still get comments that CWMs feel isolated and alone in their churches. Take time to seek out other CWMs at your church and encourage one another. We will continue to support one another virtually.

Article – Is Your Family Different?

One of the things I have noticed as a CWM over the years is parental peer pressure in and outside the church can be just as bad as peer pressure for teens. What do I mean? You feel pressured to breast feed not breast feed, cloth diapers or disposable diapers, vaccinate or don’t vaccinate, public school vs. Christian school vs. homeschool, when does your child get a cell phone or do they get one, travel sports teams, and the list goes on and on. You will also run into Moms who are so adamant about their position that they have little grace if you disagree.

Today, though I want to ask is your family different in a peculiar way? As Christians we are called to be salt and light, read Matthew 5:13-16. When non-believers look at your family do they see anything different than from their family? Do they see your family attend church, serve in the community, care for others when they are hurting, possibly even dress differently (no I’m not talking covered from head to toe), and just in general have a different value system. Do they see that you don’t have to have the latest toys to keep up with the Jones’ but choose to spend your money in other areas?

I’m purposely not giving a list of do’s and don’ts, because that leads to legalism. Our society is getting further and further from anything that resembles traditional or Biblical values. So, if you as a family choose to be salt and light to those around you; you most definitely will stick out and be different. You may even be made fun of or told you are intolerant or old-fashioned. Yet, we are called to be different. Our loyalty is first to God and to His Word. We are called to be obedient no matter what culture says or others say.

Are we willing as parents to teach our children to be different and be prepared for rejection when that happens? Can I share with you sometimes you will be called to be different even within your own church? That has happened to our family and it is not easy to hear criticism from fellow believers, but we stood solid due to our belief we were doing what God has called us to do.

I think our society in general loves to complain. You will stand out as a family if you choose to give up the habit of complaining. I have often been convicted of this passage in Philippians 2:14-15, “Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.”

As CWMs we often feel different in church. Can I encourage you to lead your family to be different in your world; to be salt and light? May we all be known as peculiar.

Final Thoughts

Dinner time is a great time to sit around the table and have a discussion about being salt and light. Have family members share practical suggestions in how that can be done.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.