I just want to let you know how thankful I am for all of you CWMs
and your graciousness in allowing me to visit your email box twice
a month. After all these years I would like to say there has been
a lot of progress in the support of CWMs, but I’m sad to say
I still get comments that CWMs feel isolated and alone in their
churches. Take time to seek out other CWMs at your church and encourage
one another. We will continue to support one another virtually.
Article – Is Your Family Different?
One of the things I have noticed as a CWM over the years is parental
peer pressure in and outside the church can be just as bad as peer
pressure for teens. What do I mean? You feel pressured to breast
feed not breast feed, cloth diapers or disposable diapers, vaccinate
or don’t vaccinate, public school vs. Christian school vs.
homeschool, when does your child get a cell phone or do they get
one, travel sports teams, and the list goes on and on. You will
also run into Moms who are so adamant about their position that
they have little grace if you disagree.
Today, though I want to ask is your family different in a peculiar
way? As Christians we are called to be salt and light, read Matthew
5:13-16. When non-believers look at your family do they see anything
different than from their family? Do they see your family attend
church, serve in the community, care for others when they are hurting,
possibly even dress differently (no I’m not talking covered
from head to toe), and just in general have a different value system.
Do they see that you don’t have to have the latest toys to
keep up with the Jones’ but choose to spend your money in
I’m purposely not giving a list of do’s and don’ts,
because that leads to legalism. Our society is getting further and
further from anything that resembles traditional or Biblical values.
So, if you as a family choose to be salt and light to those around
you; you most definitely will stick out and be different. You may
even be made fun of or told you are intolerant or old-fashioned.
Yet, we are called to be different. Our loyalty is first to God
and to His Word. We are called to be obedient no matter what culture
says or others say.
Are we willing as parents to teach our children to be different
and be prepared for rejection when that happens? Can I share with
you sometimes you will be called to be different even within your
own church? That has happened to our family and it is not easy to
hear criticism from fellow believers, but we stood solid due to
our belief we were doing what God has called us to do.
I think our society in general loves to complain. You will stand
out as a family if you choose to give up the habit of complaining.
I have often been convicted of this passage in Philippians 2:14-15,
“Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may
be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the
midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine
as lights in the world.”
As CWMs we often feel different in church. Can I encourage you
to lead your family to be different in your world; to be salt and
light? May we all be known as peculiar.
Dinner time is a great time to sit around the table and have a
discussion about being salt and light. Have family members share
practical suggestions in how that can be done.