October 2010 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs

Prayer Partner Needed
Article – How do you smell to others?
Final Thoughts



The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain


I hope you are doing well and enjoying your children. Make time to let your children know today how glad you are that God gave them to you. You do know they are gifts from God. I told my children they were gifts from God when they were little and they went around telling others they were presents from God. Amen!! To you new CWM sisters in Christ, Welcome!! If you have any questions about our CWM community visit www.christianworkingmom.com or send me an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com. I always love to hear from my CWM sisters in Christ.

Prayer Partner Needed

One of the most special and precious things about the CWM community are the virtual prayer partners. CWMs are linked with one another and agree to pray for one another’s needs. I have heard some wonderful stories of women all over the globe making new friends and prayer partners through email. I have a CWM who would like a prayer partner. If you would like one as well send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put prayer partner in the subject heading.

Article- How do you smell to others?

I bet when you read the title to this article you wondered what in the world I was talking about. First, of all I’m not talking about your personal hygiene or what perfume you wear. As children of God we put off a certain aroma to those around us. Listen to this verse, “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Ephesians 5:2.

As Christians we actually give off two different aromas. First, before we talk about those aromas I want to ask you some questions to consider about your work place:

1. How do others see you? Are you seen as helpful at work or a complainer?
2. Are you there to listen to others when they are hurting or do you try to avoid difficult people? (Within reason, we can’t spend an inordinate time at work listening to others problems).
3. Does your boss see you as a hard worker or do you try to get out of work early?
4. Do your co-workers see you as honest? Making the hard decisions when no one is watching.
5. Do your co-workers see Jesus in you?

All of us have bad days at work, but we are being watched by others to see how we react. Does being a Christian really make a difference in how we live? When the storms come into our lives do we look different from the nonbelievers? Do we have a quiet peace about us in the midst of the storm?

Let’s look at the two aromas we send out as Christians. Listen to 2 Corinthians 2:15-16, “For we are a fragrance of Christ to God among those you are being saved and among those who are perishing; to the one an aroma from death to death, to the other an aroma from life to life. And who is adequate for these things?”

First of all the gospel of Christ, as it goes out is sweet smelling, but it is not always received as such. To people around us who are interested in knowing Christ they are attracted to our aroma, because it smells of life – eternal life. The people around us may not know it at the time, but that distinct fragrance and aroma we have as Christians is desirable. Often unbelievers can’t put their finger on what is different about us, but there is something attractive in the way we lead our lives.

Now, the difficult aroma is to those who reject Christ. We smell of death, because our very presence screams Christ. To reject Christ is to accept death, eternal death. We are confronting them, even if we don’t use words, about their eternal judgment. Have you ever been around someone who rejects Christ and they accuse you of judging them when you haven’t said a word? I have. It is definitely uncomfortable. Our very existence cries out God’s law and his judgment. People don’t want to face their sin or how God views sin. The fact that we as Christians have certain standards and morals is a foul smell to them. We see more and more how Christians in our culture are made fun of and hated. The reason we are mocked is we represent Christ. We really shouldn’t be surprised. Christ was rejected by men. Since, we represent Christ we will be rejected as well. The more people see Jesus in us the more they will reject us if they are rejecting the Savior. That is a very hard truth for us to accept, especially if we want to be liked by others. If someone absolutely rejects all things Christ represents then we will be rejected.

So, as Christians how do we spread our aroma? Here are just a few suggestions

1. Realize we are being watched as followers of Christ. That doesn’t mean we have to be perfect. It does mean we are Christ ambassadors and need to represent him faithfully and honestly.
2. There will be those around us who think we smell of death. They won’t say it that way. It is our job to share the gospel by how we live, but ultimately it is up to God to convict them of their sin. Realize when they don’t like us they really don’t like who we represent.
3. Find ways in your everyday life to spread the sweet fragrance of Christ. Take that extra step in the check-out line to make eye contact with the cashier and ask her how her day is going. Pray for those at work you are having difficulties with and ask God’s wisdom in how to handle the situation.
4. We need to spread Christ aroma at home as well. Do we treat our family with less respect than we do co-workers? Are we less patient with our children than other peoples’ children? Our children are watching for how we smell of Christ as well.
5. Ask God daily for you to be a faithful witness and sweet smelling to all those around you.

My prayer for all of us is that we are faithful witnesses for God and his gospel and to all those around us our aroma will be sweet. To those who reject Christ we can continue to pray for them and show them the love of Christ. So, go out there and be smelly for Christ!!

Final Thoughts

Please know you can “win” no one to Christ by yourself. God calls us and draws us to himself. God does the saving, we just do the sharing. So, if someone rejects the gospel when you are sharing it with them, do not try to badger them into the Kingdom. You are planting a seed that someone may reap later. Our job is to share Christ with others and leave the results to God.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.