November CWM Interview
One of the many blessings of the CWM community has been getting
to know CWMs over the years and watching them grow in their walk
with God and acceptance of being a CWM. This month we have a special
treat. Kate had been interviewed several years ago and now she gives
us an update. I hope you learn from her walk as a CWM.
Kate is a married 43 year old CWM who lives in the United States.
She has a daughter age 13. Kate is a professional communicator.
Let’s listen to what Kate has to say. I have been interviewed
before, some years back. I didn’t save my own interview, so
I don’t know exactly what I said, but I’m sure that
some of what I say now is stuff I said earlier, and some is new.
God has been teaching me as a working mother that he sees the big
picture that I do not see, and that he is using all things for good
in my life. I knew it was rebellious of me, but for years I was
angry and bitter about having to be a working mom when I so wanted
to stay home with my child. I knew even then that God was using
my situation to shape me as a person. My having to work gave me
a heart for other working moms that I might not have had if I had
been able to stay home. I also have been forced to confront the
“excess” in my life, to prune my life, so to speak,
in ways I might not have if I had stayed home. I can’t claim
I live a perfectly simple life, completely focused on God, but he
has used the stresses I face to focus my eyes on him and show me
the need to “throw off everything that hinders.”
Things really hit home a couple of years ago, when my husband was
going through a long-term bout of unemployment. This was his fifth
time of unemployment since our daughter had been born, and it had
been going on for more than seven months when I was blessed with
some time with two dear sisters in Christ. During this last time
of unemployment, we found out that my husband has ADHD. As my friends
and I were talking, I realized that God had known all along when
we did not know it that my husband had ADHD and that he would go
through bad times employment-wise. God had required me to be a working
mother not because he loved me less than stay-at-home moms, but
because he was providing for our family through my steady job, which
has grown in terms of pay and responsibilities over the years.
Even now, I feel that life would be easier if I didn’t have
to work outside the home. Even now, I sometimes struggle with envy
for at-home moms. Even now, I feel like I don’t have the hang
of being a working mom and wife to someone with ADHD! But when I
reflect on God’s blessings, I realize that he is amazingly
gracious, and I am overwhelmed to have received such loving care
Kate shares her favorite Scripture right now:
Over the past year or so, I have been drawn over and over again
to Philippians, particularly the 4th chapter, verses 4-13 and verse
19. I am in the school of contentment right now, learning, in my
slow and hard-headed way, to be content in whatever circumstances
God places me in.
Words of Encouragement for other Christian Working Moms:
It took me more than a decade to understand that God saw the big
picture of my life where I saw only details that left me dissatisfied.
I wish I did not waste time being unhappy with circumstances that
were meant for my good and the good of my family, but I am a broken
person, as we all are, and our God is a gracious, loving, forgiving
God. If you are in a situation that makes your heart heavy, know
that God loves you and is working things out for good in ways you
cannot imagine and may not understand for a long time.
Kate, I appreciate you being open and honest with us. I also take
great comfort in how you shared God knows our long-term plans and
we need to trust Him in all things.
It is so hard to wrap our mind around the fact that God has no
sense of time. There isn’t a past, present, or future with
God. I often can look back over my life and see many times he worked
things out in ways I could never imagine. God is good all the time
and in our troubled times as well.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm.
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