May 2013 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Happy Belated Mother’s Day
Website Recommendation
Final Thoughts


The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Happy Belated Mother’s Day

I hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day and you were celebrated. Shouldn’t every day be Mother’s Day? Just kidding. One of the most precious roles I have is being a Mom. You know no matter how old your children are you will still be called “Renee’s Mommy and Zachary’s Mommy” (in my case). I recently taught the oldest ladies Sunday School class at my church one Sunday and one of the ladies said “She is Renee’s Mom”. So it is a proud title we will all wear for the rest of our lives. Do know when it seems no one sees what you do every day God sees your loving work. God appreciates how you worship Him by taking care of His children.

Website Recommendation

One of my favorite authors is Carolyn Custis James. She is doing an interesting series about women in the workplace and leadership. There have been many insightful comments. To find out more go to Look for the Lean In Blog posts.

Article – Do you feel pressured to be the Perfect Mom?

I don’t know about you but it seems every day there is a new study coming out about what you should or shouldn’t be doing for your children. In the Christian world there are many Parenting Series’ that tell you how to raise your children. Then, we can get into the whole debate about homeschooling, private school, and public school options for your children. It is enough to make a Mom go crazy.

I think feeling guilt is part of being a Mom. We can and should take our God given responsibility very seriously. Yet, there is this pressure from other Moms, media, and the church to be the perfect Mom. I’m not even sure what a perfect Mom would look like. I think as women we often compare ourselves to others and often to people who are doing things “better” than us. We don’t measure up and then we feel guilt.

So, what do we do? We learn to daily put our trust in the Sovereign living God. I cannot control every situation. Since, I didn’t breast feed my children (even though I tried and it was a disaster) I can trust that God can still protect my children’s health and all the other dire warnings that will happen to them since I didn’t breast feed.

Can we be honest the real issue is about control? We want to raise Godly children and we want to not make mistakes. We also think if we do everything “right” as a parent we will have good kids. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. As long as sinner parents are raising sinner children there are going to be mistakes, but we serve a God who molds us while we are making mistakes to be more and more like Him.

Who would have thought that Saul the murderer of Christians would one day be the Apostle Paul who started a revolution for Christ? What about Peter the denier would one day demand he would be crucified upside down, because he was not worthy to be crucified the same as Christ. We must trust that God is working in our children’s lives in spite of our best and worst parenting efforts.

Next time your read a parenting article and feel like a failure pray a prayer for God to give you wisdom to raise your children to glorify Him. Trust that you are not in this parenting enterprise alone and God will be sovereign in your life and your children’s lives as well. We serve a God who knows the very number of hairs on our head and our original hair color as well.

Final Thoughts

One of the keys to being a great parent is not to take yourself so seriously. Learn to laugh at your less than “perfect” parenting moments.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to To find out more about her books go to For a free, initial coaching session send an email to