June 2011 CWM Interview
Final Thoughts



The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
written by
Author Kimberly Chastain

Hello everyone. Both of my children are away at church camp this week so it has been pretty quiet around our house. While my husband and I miss them, we are also enjoying listening to the quiet. I hope you are having a great summer or winter depending on where you live. Welcome to all the new CWM subscribers. There are lots of ways to be involved. If you want to read past articles or interviews you can find them at: http://www.kimberlychastain.com/newsletters/archives.htm. Feel free to email me with questions or suggestions at Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com.


Today Jill was gracious to share with us her words of wisdom. Jill lives in the United States and is a married 30 year old CWM with a son age 4 and a daughter who is 9 months old. Jill is a Business Development Manager at a Ford Dealership.

Jill shares the following joys in being a CWM: I spent much of my first years in motherhood feeling guilty, not that I was a working mom, but that I didn’t desire to be a stay-at-home mom even if I had the opportunity. Eventually I was able to realize that just as God doesn’t equip all the members of his Body with the same gifts, he doesn’t equip all moms alike. He equipped me with gifts that I am able to utilize in different areas. My joy comes in using these gifts the Spirit has given me in my family, my church, and my work.

Jill struggles with balancing the managing of the day-to-day operations of the household. I am blessed that my husband shares in much of this, but still I find many days I come up short.

Jill’s favorite Bible Verse: I’ve found that I have favorite verses at different stages of my life. Right now my favorite is Acts 20:24: “But I do not account my life of any value nor as precious to myself, if only I may finish my course and the ministry that I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify to the gospel of the grace of God.”

What is God teaching you right now, Jill? In the moms’ class that I lead at my church, we have been going through 1 Corinthians 13. The very last lesson on “love never fails” really spoke to me. In looking up the original definition for “fails,” one definition could read, “Love never ceases to be effective.” I’ve seen that at work in the smallest details in my interactions with Drew. If I discipline him out of pure love, the agape love that only comes from God, I see fruit immediately and I’m sure I will continue to see it as he grows. In contrast, if I find myself disciplining or reacting out of anger or frustration – or anything other than love – the effect is the opposite. So no matter what I do, whether in the words I say, how I discipline, how I spend the time I have with him – any number of things – my goal has been to act out of love.

Jill offers these words of encouragement for other Christian Working Moms:
Don’t forget that God placed your child(ren) in your family. They are uniquely suited for you. As long as we are following God, it doesn’t matter if we’re working moms, stay-at-home moms, or a blend of the two. In my case, I am blessed that my husband works hours that allows him to be home with the kids some days. My mom keeps them other days, and they go to a Mother’s Day Out program as well. I believe God created my children to thrive in this situation because of all the experiences they get and the relationships they build with those who care for them. In the same way, for the stay-at-home moms’ children, those children are designed to thrive in the mother’s primary care. As long as we are following where God is leading our individual families, and as long as we are being faithful to raise our children to love and follow Christ, we are fulfilling our purpose in their lives.

Anything else you would like to share: In the day-to-day busyness of life, it’s easy to lose sight of our ultimate goal as believers is bringing glory to God and to further his kingdom. And our children are our first ministry. We need to be faithful to raise them in a local body of believers, but we can’t stop there. They have to see us living our faith day in and day out. What that means to me many times is having to look Drew in the eye and say, “I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?” We can’t be perfect, and we’ll lead a very frustrated life if we expect that out of ourselves. But what we can do is model the love of Christ to our children and model grace both by asking for their forgiveness when we fall short and by extending that same grace to them, all the while pointing them to their heavenly Father.

Thanks Jill for the reminder that children often watch our Christian walk much more than they listen to our words. Our walk needs to be consistent with our talk.

Final Thoughts

What one way this week can you show your children the love of God rather than saying it? Surprise your children with God’s overwhelming love for all of us.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.