June 2010 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Marriage Survey
Article – Being Wise in Deceiving Times
Final Thoughts


Summer is here this week even if not officially on the calendar. This is the last week of school for my children. Hurray! I’m ready for a more relaxed schedule. Go visit the CWM Blog and answer the question to how do you handle the “I’m Bored” scenario that comes with summer vacation. Welcome to all our new CWMs may you find encouragement and strength through this website and other sisters in Christ who visit here.

Marriage Survey

Sheila Wray Gregorie is an author and Christian Women’s speaker who is doing research on marriage. She is specifically looking at the wedding night and expectations couples may have. She has a short survey she is asking women to fill out. Please help her out and answer the survey. You can find the survey at: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/VBGHVGV. All surveys are anonymous. Thanks in advance for your help.

Newly Released Book written by Author Kimberly Chastain

The Voices of Christian Working Moms






Article – Being Wise in Deceiving Times

As CWMs we are responsible for teaching our children the things of God. We are also responsible (along with fathers) for making sure our children are in a church that has solid Biblical teaching and assists us in training up our children in the ways of God. In fact, the Bible gives parents the responsibility to train children up not the church. So, ultimately it is our responsibility.

I have become concerned lately that some churches are more interested in entertaining our children, youth, and even adults instead of teaching, discipling, and holding people accountable. Often, Sunday school and worship have become another form of entertainment.

The Bible clearly speaks about this in 1 Timothy 4:3-4, “For the time is coming, when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.” Does this sound like today to you at all? People want to hear things that make them feel good, not that are convicting. Have you noticed few preachers speak about Hell anymore, because people really don’t want to hear it? Yet, if we are honest there are things in the Bible that are difficult to hear and understand. I would almost compare the difficult parts in the Bible to having to learn to eat our vegetables. The entire Bible needs to be preached not just the parts we like. 2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction and for training in righteousness.” That means every single part of God’s Word has something to teach us.

So, why is this important? Many recent studies are coming out with some very sad statistics. From the book ReThink by Steve Wright and Chris Graves, p.19, “Mark Matlock finds, “Depending on whose numbers you use, 58-84% of graduating youth from church youth groups are not returning.” (I would highly recommend reading this book by the way). This statistic is troubling beyond belief. So, just having your children “in church” is not enough and is not a guarantee they will walk with the Lord when they graduate from high school. As parents then we need to be on guard for a church that teaches truth and expects our children to live it out their entire lives.

Here are some of my humble suggestions to see if your church is teaching sound Biblical doctrine:

1. Does your pastor all ready have an entire sermon planned and picks a verse to fit what he wants to preach on? Does he read that verse and then never goes back to the text? Then, your pastor is focused on what he wants to teach not God’s Word.
2. Does your pastor allow the sermon to come from the Bible passage he is reading or teaching? That means your pastor is allowing the Bible to guide his preaching not his own ideas.
3. Do the sermons in your church focus more on how God can bless you, help you, or make you successful?The goal of worship is to point us to God and what he has done for us, to praise Him for all his mighty acts. Whenever a sermon series is more focused on you instead of God then we are worshipping man not God.
4. In your children’s Sunday school class to they read Bible stories and learn memory verses? Do you see them growing from year to year? Or do you see lots of how this applies to my life and not about God.
5. In your children’s Sunday school are there lots of videos and high energy activities? Are your children learning how to be still before the Lord and pray? If Sunday school has to be like TV and entertain then that is violating what we learned in 1 Timothy. Let me be clear there is nothing wrong with videos or music targeted to children, but a steady diet of that does not develop deep theological roots.
6. Do you ever come away from Sunday school or worship convicted of your sin and how you need to change? Or do you come away feeling pretty good about yourself? Again, we are not to be down on ourselves all the time, but when we compare our sin to a Holy, sinless God we will always come up short.
7. Do you or your church shy away from Bible studies that encourage you to study at home and do a little more work? Or do you expect the teacher to do all the feeding?
8. Do you feel your church worship service is more of a performance of professional singers or a true worship service of people singing praises to their God?
9. Does your church focus on training new teachers and leaders? Do your current Sunday School teachers have training to teach or are they just a warm body to fill an open spot?
10. Does your church have a prayer ministry? Do you seek God’s wisdom in all situations in your church and home life?

These are just a few suggestions for you to ponder. I could have written many more. I have lived in many different places and finding a strong Biblically sound church is not always easy. My family and I have left churches that do not meet some of the things discussed above. The decision is never easy.

May I leave you with some final thoughts? We are living in a world full of “spiritual leaders” who are deceptive and trying to tickle our ears. There are many false teachers. We need to make sure as our babies graduated from milk to solid food that are children do the same spiritually. My fear is too many churches are serving baby food and not solid food. Solid Biblical teaching will last past high school. We have to be on guard for our children and for ourselves as well.

If you are willing I would love to hear your comments about your own church and how you see its Biblical teaching. Visit the CWM blog and share: www.christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com.

Final Thoughts

There is nothing more important as a CWM than teaching our children the things of God. We are commanded to in the Bible. Those spiritual values will last for eternity.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.