July 2015 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Life Update
Prayers for Charleston
Article – Musings from an Old CWM
Final Thoughts

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Life Update

You may have noticed that you did not receive a June CWM newsletter. On May 30th, my daughter got married to a wonderful Christian man. The wedding was a God glorifying ceremony and a wonderful celebration. My daughter wanted a picture of 3 generations of wedding bands. Here is the picture:

My mother’s hand is on the bottom, I’m in the middle, and then my daughter’s. 68 total years of marriage are represented and a new one starting. God is faithful. I have to admit that I really do not remember a chapter in What to Expect When You are Expecting about your “baby” getting married and becoming a mother-in-law. Certainly I’m blazing new ground. It truly feels like yesterday when she was born. During the month of May by daughter graduated from college and got married. So, we were a tad busy. In June I spent a week visiting with my Mom who lives in another state. My Mom is not in the best of health and God answered more than abundantly for her to come participate in her granddaughter’s wedding.

It is hard to believe the article entitled, “Renee’s Mommy is here” (written many years ago about picking my daughter up from daycare the first time) is now a young married woman. My husband and I are very proud of her and are looking forward to how God will use Renee and Peter for His glory in the future. Of course, as she has gotten older I have stayed the same age!! (I wish).

Prayers for Charleston

I live in South Carolina about 4 hours from Charleston, SC. For those of you who don’t know an evil white man walked into a historical black churches’ Bible Study on a Wednesday night and killed 9 people. He was welcomed into the Bible Study warmly and then he murdered these dear Christians. I wanted to share a fact with you that you probably have not heard. On June 13th, four days before the shooting, a prayer rally was held in Charleston to pray for our country. Thousands attended to pray and worship for six hours for our nation. At that prayer rally was Governor Nikki Haley of South Carolina and Governor Bobby Jindal of Louisiana.

Two thoughts I have had since this event. God only knows if they are accurate. Satan abhors when God’s people get together to pray. What Satan meant for evil in brutally murdering 9 Christians, God meant for good. As many of you have seen the families of the murdered have said they forgive the shooter and have asked him to repent. They have pointed him to Christ. Some family members have even said they will visit the murderer in jail. We all know that can only be done through the power of Christ and His amazing grace.

My second thought is that Charleston was “prayed up” before this event occurred. The media came here looking for rioting and found none. Some of the media even wept when they saw how blacks and whites were coming together to support one another. God’s people were a living, breathing example of His grace, mercy, and love.

None of us knows what tomorrow holds or even today. A friend of mine who serves in the South Carolina legislature said that Senator Pinckney (the pastor of the church and one who was murdered) that day told my friend he had to leave the committee meeting because he needed to get back to church to lead a Bible Study. Senator/Rev. Pinckney had his priorities right. I want us to ask ourselves, are we “prayed up” for whatever is coming our way? Do we daily seek God and His strength for all we do? The gracious Christians in Charleston are leading the way.

Please continue to pray for the families of the murdered in Charleston. Several young children lost parents that day. This nightmare will not end for them. Pray that the church will be there not in the next days, but the coming months and years.

Article – Musings from an Old CWM

I have one child that has flown the coop and another is getting close. My son is 17 and will be a senior in highschool this coming August. The way our world is going I wanted to share some of my thoughts. This is absolutely not from the perfect CWM and I say thoughts, because I certainly don’t have the corner on knowledge.

Your relationship with God has to be your top priority. In this crazy world we live in you need to read His Word and be saturated in what God desires for you and your family. We now live in a world where we as Christians are weirdoes, old fashioned, ignorant, or whatever the latest names we are being called. Many in this world are dying because they stand up for Christ. You and your children have to be ready to stand firm against Satan’s arrows. Society in general, the education system, and the government are adamantly opposed to our Christian values. We cannot leave our children’s spiritual development to the church. They are not in church much each week and many churches’ now are no longer teaching sound Biblical doctrine.

Believe me I know when my kids were little getting to read my Bible seemed impossible. We would listen to Christian CD’s in the car and read Bible stories at night. There are so many apps now that will give you a daily devotion reading. If we have time for Facebook, twitter, etc. we have time to read God’s Word.

Can I let you in on a secret? I am a great worrier! If they give medals for worrying I would get a gold medal. Most of the things I worried about as my children were growing up either didn’t happen or weren’t nearly as bad as I imagined. Worry is a lack of faith in God. Even if the worst thing I can imagine happens God will still be there and will get me through it.

God has loved my children since before they were born and will love them after I die. He created them and knows them so much better than me. God will continue to work in their lives after they become adults. I have talked to my friends who have children my age. We all get this panic when our children leave for college or a job that I haven’t taught them everything they needed to know or I did this or that wrong as a parent. You know what God is still shaping them as the gracious potter that He is and he can certainly take care of my mistakes as a parent. He will mold them for His purposes and His glory.

If you are married it is important that your marriage is first. Children have a way of making you neglect your marriage and that is not healthy. Children never need to be the center of attention. That is way too much to put on their shoulders. They need to know that Mommy and Daddy are people too; they are actually husband and wife. This means the parent’s bedroom is off limits to children. Children should not sleep or play in the parent’s bedroom. Yes, I know when a baby comes home they may sleep in your room, but they don’t need to be in there when they are 10.

Sisters in Christ we need other Moms to support us along the way. Your husband is not going to meet all your emotional needs. It is great to have a Mom’s night out and cry together, laugh together, and just support one another. We need to have each other’s back; which means women we have to stop tearing one another part. Everyone does motherhood differently according to the way God created us. There is no such thing as the perfect Mom!! Give up on that dream.

After all this seriousness, have fun with your children. Having fun doesn’t have to cost money. You can play board games, go on hikes, look at the stars, and so many other things. We are so rushed in our culture that we need to take time to slow down and just enjoy one another. I love listening to my children (they will always be my babies I don’t care how old they get) talk about the things they are interested in. It is really cool to see how God is using them. Look for ways now how God has placed certain characteristics in your children that he can use in the future. Can I let you in on another little secret? Strong willed children often make great leaders when they are adults. Try to remember that when they won’t do what you ask.

Last musing, I am also a therapist and I have been for over 25 years now. I cannot remember one client who sat in my office and said my life’s problems are because my Mom worked outside the home. Your children are more resilient than you think. I know many of you wish you could be home, but being a stay at home Mom is not always easy either. Please give up the working Mom guilt. Guilt steals your joy. Pray and ask God for direction about working. If you do work then ask God to help you be joyful in all circumstances.

In His strength alone parent you precious gifts from God.

Final Thoughts

As I write this my 6’0” son is taking a nap after a school trip out of town. He has a special way he sleeps that he has done since he was a baby. If I tell you he would “kill me”. I won’t tell you but it makes this Mom say, “Awww!”

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.