July 2009 Pearls of Encouragement
Blog/Online Bible Study
Article – Is guilt part of being a Mom?
How are you all doing? I hope
everyone is having a good summer or winter
depending on where you live. We have so many
new CWMs in our community and you will find
the CWM community a place of encouragement.
To see all the many opportunities for you,
go to www.christianworkingmom.com.
The Voices of Christian Working
Moms was just released last month. You can
click on the banner above to find out more.
I wanted to let you know there are two ways
to order the book. You can order the book
with an inscription for a friend, family member,
etc or you can order the book without an inscription.
When you go to www.christianworkingmom.com/book.htm
just click on which book you prefer and you
will be sent to the correct ordering page.
Let me know if you have any questions.
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Just do a search for Christian Working Moms
and you will see a blue background square
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So, please join us.
We haven’t talked about
prayer partners for awhile. Many of our CWMs
our connected with prayer partners virtually
all over the world and pray for one another.
If you would like a prayer partner send an
email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
with Prayer partner in the subject heading
and I will send you an email of someone else
who requested a prayer partner. You two can
then connect through email and pray for one
Blog/Online Bible Study
I am going to try and post more
Bible studies for our Online Bible Study within
the next month or two. My goal was to do it
monthly, but unfortunately that hasn’t
happen. You can visit our Online Bible study
The CWM blog can be found at http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com.
Answer this month’s question, “How
can we use Michael Jackson’s death as
a way to introduce people to Christ?”
I look forward to hearing your answers.
Article – Is Guilt Part
of Being a Mom?
In the CWM survey of over 2,200
CWMs, 83% felt some guilt about working. Many
women wrote and said they feel guilt about
lots of things. It feels like part of being
a mom is feeling guilty. We didn’t breastfeed
or we breastfed too long. Our kids don’t
eat enough vegetables, get enough exercise,
play too many video games, etc. Truly, the
list could go on and on. Every day there is
a new study that seems to assault our parenting
or lets us know we are failing in some way
as a parent and we feel guilt.
I want us to explore beneath the surface a
little more. What is really at the root of
guilt? Ultimately, we want control!! If I
do all the right things as a parent I will
have a “perfect” child or close
to it. I can prevent bad things from happening.
Yet, we really don’t have as much control
as we think.
After being a marriage and family
therapist for 20+ years now I have seen many
things in my office. I have seen Godly parents
who did everything right to raise Godly children
and see their children become prodigals. I
have seen people who grew up in truly dysfunctional
families and become solid, high achieving
people. You wonder how they do so well with
their backgrounds. So, do the above statements
discourage you? They were not meant to.
Here is the nugget of truth:
As Moms we have to trust and learn that God
is ultimately in control. Listen to this verse
from 1Timothy 6:15, “God … is
the blessed controller of all things, the
king over all kings and master of all masters.”
He works in and through us. We cannot control
everything our children do. Children are sinners
and sometimes choose a crooked instead of
a straight road. Is that because we were a
bad parent? Most of the times not!! God made
all of us independent and children do and
can make bad decisions. Does that mean we
give up? No. We still give them Godly advice
and counsel. We still discipline them. Yet,
ultimately they have to choose to follow God
on their own.
So, what are we to do? Let’s
look at a famous modern day prodigal –
Franklin Graham. He even wrote a book about
his journey, Rebel With A Cause. His parents
are Ruth and Billy Graham. Talk about great
Godly parents. Yet, out of Franklin Graham’s
prodigal past came a passion for hurting people
and he became involved with Samaritan’s
Purse. God used Franklin Graham’s difficult
past to now glorify God and reach millions
of people all over the world for Christ. Ruth
Graham shared she spent many sleepless nights
praying over her son. God answered those prayers
in His own time.
I’m encouraging all of
us to stop feeling guilt. We are extremely
important in our children’s lives, but
God is more important. We must trust that
God is working in our children’s lives
in spite of us and through us. If we were
somehow the “perfect” parents
then our children wouldn’t need God.
So, being a Mom and feeling
guilt do not have to go hand in hand. We can
replace our guilt with trust in God and that
His ways and plans are best for us and our
children. Remember the great verse from the
Sermon on the Mount, “Therefore, do
not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will
worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble
of its own.” Matthew 6:34. Can you join
me in giving up on guilt? It will take work,
but we can do it.
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT
is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of 2 ebooks and an online Bible study.
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