Pearls of Encouragement for Christian
February 2007 Edition
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Article – Are You a Balcony Person or a Basement
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Article – Are you a Balcony
Person or a Basement Person?
I have to give my sister credit for
sharing this illustration with me. I think you will
find it helpful as well. Our world has becoming increasingly
critical. You can watch TV and see various “experts”
argue about issues and become vicious. Putting someone
down for children, teenagers, and adults has become
an art form. You need to “diss” them before
they “diss” you. Saying something kind
is considered being weak. So, the question is are
you a Balcony Person or a Basement Person? Do you
as a Balcony Person lift up, encourage people, build
them up, and bring them up? Or are you a Basement
Person. Do you tear people down, criticize them, and
critical of their actions. Which do you think is easiest
to do? What does the world teach?
As Christians we are called to follow
God’s standard not the world’s. Let’s
see what scripture says about our speech. Ephesians
4:29, 32 says the following: “Do not let any
unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only
what is helpful for building others up according to
their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as Christ God forgave you.”
God calls us to be Balcony People, building others
up according to their needs. I have heard this verse
many times in my life, but something stood out to
me this time in reading the verse. The verse says
build others up according to their needs. To me this
does not mean empty flattery, but really getting to
know a person so you know what to say that can truly
build them up. We can encourage them as they grow
in Christ or as they grow in other areas of their
lives. We can speak God’s word to people and
provide his comfort not our own.
I have some questions for you to consider.
I have asked them of myself and honestly, I don’t
always like the answers.
1. In my work place and I the first
one to be critical and find fault or do I try
to find a solution?
2. Am I known as the office gossip?
3. Am I quick to judge others and be
4. Do I purposely try to encourage my
coworkers? Do I point out their
5. As a parent, are my comments to my
kids more negative than positive?
Am I always on them?
6. As a parent, do I find opportunities
to encourage and lift my children up?
7. As a Christian friend, am I quick
to point out sin in other people’s lives or
do I encourage them as a fellow sister in Christ?
8. How would others describe me? Am
I a Balcony person or a Basement
9. Am I encouraging my children to choose
to be Balcony person’s according
10. Are my children’s friends Balcony or Basement
people? Remember our
children are greatly affected by their peers.
The pull of the world is strong. The world says beat
people to the put down. Only weak people say kind
things to others. You don’t want to be perceived
as “brown nosing”. The bottom line is
as Christians our guidebook is the Bible and the Bible
is clear about how we are to interact with others.
We are to build them up and not tear them down. Our
sinful nature is quick to judge. As Christians, we
are new creatures in Christ. We are called saints
in Ephesians. Only with God’s power and the
indwelling of the Holy Spirit can we change our selfish
nature to one that is of Christ. So, can I encourage
you to rely on the power of God to transform you to
a Balcony person and bring those around you up to
see the view. Not in a high and mighty fashion, but
for us to see others as God’s holy creation.
We are created in his likeness. So, when we put down
others we are literally putting down God.
May we all strive to become more like
Christ and lift others up.
Don’t you just love the chocolate
for Valentine’s Day? I guess I love chocolate
any day. Enjoy the candy. If you don’t get any,
you can always sneak some for your kids. I’m
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is
the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage
and Family Therapist. She is the author of 2 ebooks
and an online Bible study. You can find more information
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