February 2013 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs
Welcome/Prayer Partner Needed
Feedback on CWM
Article – Being Diligent in Teaching Your Children about Truth
Final Thoughts


The Voices of Christian Working Moms

Newly Released Book
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Author Kimberly Chastain


I’m very thankful and blessed to “know” virtually so many CWMs. You have no idea how you encourage me by simply faithfully living out your calling in your daily life. God is honored when we glorify Him in all we do.

One of the neat things about being a Mom is learning from your children. There are so many things I would have never known if I didn’t have a son. The other night my son and I went to a Rugby game, (a rather confusing sport to watch). I now know what a scrum is and I think I’m convinced I want my son to stick to soccer and not play rugby.

My daughter recently alerted me even more to the horrible practice of slavery that is practiced today. Her generation has decided they want to be the generation to end slavery. To find out more about this international movement go to: www.enditmovement.com. Please forward this information to others.

I have a CWM who would like a prayer partner. Prayer partners meet virtually through email and agree to pray for one another. If you are willing to be a prayer partner, please send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com and put prayer partner in the subject heading.

Feedback on CWM

Last month I asked you for feedback on CWM, here is the feedback you sent me:

  1. Several CWMs wish more women would post on the blog and share their experiences. Perhaps share prayer requests or start conversations. We have many women who visit the blog, but don’t post. Some suggested they may visit more if questions were posted on Facebook. We do have a Facebook page, but I must admit I have spent little time on it. Let me know if Facebook would be a better place.

So, I have added an Open Comment/Prayer Request section at

http://christianworkingmoms.blogspot.com. Please take time to post and share.

    2. Most of the CWMs who responded said they like the monthly interviews. You all felt encouraged reading about other women. That being said I’m in desperate need of other CWMs to interview. If you have been interviewed in the past, feel free to volunteer again and share how things have changed over time. We didn’t have a January CWM interview due to having no volunteers. If you are willing to be interviewed, send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com with interview in the subject heading.

3. Of those who responded you appreciated the encouragement of monthly newsletters as well.

I’m always open to feedback, so feel free to send me an email at anytime.

Article – Be Diligent in Teaching Your Children about Truth

My dear sisters in Christ, I am becoming more and more burdened by the fact that even children who have gone to church all their lives do not believe in absolute truth. What do I mean by absolute truth? Absolute truth means what God says in His Word is true, no if, ands, or buts. Absolute truth also means there is right and wrong.

Let me go down a small bunny trail. I get very angry when I watch the news and hear people say that someone’s comments were misleading or misunderstood. No one has the guts to say, “they were lying!!” Misleading is a fancy term for lie. (Now we will return to the article already in progress, now off my soapbox).

God is very clear in Scripture that Jesus is The Way, The Truth, and The Life. (John 14:6). No one comes to the Father, but through Me (Jesus). Yet you will hear people say there are many ways to God. People often like to make God in their own image and what they find acceptable.

In only a few generations living together before marriage has become quite acceptable for Christian young people. God is clear that marriage comes before living together and is ordained by him.

Christian young people and adults have bought the lie that truth is relative. Truth really depends on your situation and how you see the world. If truth is relative then no one needs to be held accountable for what they do, because you may define truth differently than I do.

I always find it amazing how when a newborn baby is left in a trash can (believe me that is horrible) that people are quick to judge the mother and want to send her to jail, but if only a few months before she had chosen to have an abortion there would be no problem. From a relative truth philosophy what is the difference in a few months.

So, what are we to do as CWMs. First, of all you need to know upfront you will be swimming upstream against the culture outside the church and inside the church if you begin to be diligent to teach your children about absolute truth. Listen to this quote from the book, The Unshakable Truth by Josh and Sean McDowell, “The Christian faith was then and still is an integrated and organic style of intimately knowing the truth, being the truth in relationship with God and others, and living the truth before the world around us, starting in our own families.” (p. 41).

In our post-modern world it is not enough to know the truth and spit out Biblical facts. There are many people who don’t even know what the Bible is or believe what it says. What people are looking for is does our talk match our walk. In other words, if you are a Christian family do you do things differently than a non-Christian family?

For our children, they have to see us living out Biblical truth if we are the only family that does. There is great peer pressure in and outside the church on families.

Let me give you a few examples. Your son or daughter copies their homework off of another friend, because they didn’t do their homework. Is that wrong? Everybody does it, right? Yes it is wrong and as hard as it is for your child to get a 0 that is what they deserve, because it is not their work.

In our family, we don’t go out to eat on Sunday (the new Sabbath after resurrection), because we believe in keeping the commandment about keeping the Sabbath holy. Also, one reason many restaurants are open on Sunday is for the church crowd. Those restaurant employees can’t go to church due to having to work. We have faced a lot of criticism from others at church for our stand in this area.

We have decided our children will not just date until they are ready for marriage. When we look at scripture there is no precedent for dating numerous people in your life when you are not ready to get married. As a marriage therapist I think serial dating can lead to serial marriages. Young people will quickly break up when they don’t like what their boyfriend or girlfriend is doing. So, when you get married and you don’t like what your spouse is doing you get a divorce. Believe me in our church we are often looked upon as being weird for our approach to dating.

Please don’t hear me sharing any of these things to make my family look good. All of the decisions we have made have been after Bible study and much prayer. We just didn’t make them to be different. What I’m trying to encourage you to do is realize that when we are Christ followers we follow God’s truth. When we do that we will be different and the world will notice.

The biggest problem I see in youth going to church today and then dropping church once they go to college is they had a lot of head knowledge about the Bible, but they never saw it lived out. The Biblical truth did not make a difference in their lives. So, it was easy to leave the church.

Following Christ means our lives are radically different. How we treat others, what we choose to do and not do, and how we stand for truth. Truth is not “fuzzy”. There is right and wrong. Believe me in this day and age if you are a woman of your word, you will stand out.

Final Thoughts

What are some practical ways you can show your children each day God’s truth? How can you demonstrate standing for righteousness in an unrighteous world?

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to http://www.kimberlychastain.com/cwmtips.htm. To find out more about her books go to www.christianworkingmom.com. For a free, initial coaching session send an email to free@kimberlychastain.com.