I’m very thankful and blessed to “know” virtually
so many CWMs. You have no idea how you encourage me by simply faithfully
living out your calling in your daily life. God is honored when
we glorify Him in all we do.
One of the neat things about being a Mom is learning from your
children. There are so many things I would have never known if I
didn’t have a son. The other night my son and I went to a
Rugby game, (a rather confusing sport to watch). I now know what
a scrum is and I think I’m convinced I want my son to stick
to soccer and not play rugby.
My daughter recently alerted me even more to the horrible practice
of slavery that is practiced today. Her generation has decided they
want to be the generation to end slavery. To find out more about
this international movement go to: www.enditmovement.com.
Please forward this information to others.
I have a CWM who would like a prayer partner. Prayer partners meet
virtually through email and agree to pray for one another. If you
are willing to be a prayer partner, please send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
and put prayer partner in the subject heading.
Feedback on CWM
Last month I asked you for feedback on CWM, here is the feedback
you sent me:
- Several CWMs wish more women would post on the blog and share
their experiences. Perhaps share prayer requests or start conversations.
We have many women who visit the blog, but don’t post. Some
suggested they may visit more if questions were posted on Facebook.
We do have a Facebook page, but I must admit I have spent little
time on it. Let me know if Facebook would be a better place.
So, I have added an Open Comment/Prayer Request section at
Please take time to post and share.
2. Most of the CWMs who responded said they like the monthly interviews.
You all felt encouraged reading about other women. That being said
I’m in desperate need of other CWMs to interview. If you have
been interviewed in the past, feel free to volunteer again and share
how things have changed over time. We didn’t have a January
CWM interview due to having no volunteers. If you are willing to
be interviewed, send an email to Kimberly@kimberlychastain.com
with interview in the subject heading.
3. Of those who responded you appreciated the encouragement of
monthly newsletters as well.
I’m always open to feedback, so feel free to send me an email
Article – Be Diligent in Teaching Your Children about
My dear sisters in Christ, I am becoming more and more burdened
by the fact that even children who have gone to church all their
lives do not believe in absolute truth. What do I mean by absolute
truth? Absolute truth means what God says in His Word is true, no
if, ands, or buts. Absolute truth also means there is right and
Let me go down a small bunny trail. I get very angry when I watch
the news and hear people say that someone’s comments were
misleading or misunderstood. No one has the guts to say, “they
were lying!!” Misleading is a fancy term for lie. (Now we
will return to the article already in progress, now off my soapbox).
God is very clear in Scripture that Jesus is The Way, The Truth,
and The Life. (John 14:6). No one comes to the Father, but through
Me (Jesus). Yet you will hear people say there are many ways to
God. People often like to make God in their own image and what they
In only a few generations living together before marriage has become
quite acceptable for Christian young people. God is clear that marriage
comes before living together and is ordained by him.
Christian young people and adults have bought the lie that truth
is relative. Truth really depends on your situation and how you
see the world. If truth is relative then no one needs to be held
accountable for what they do, because you may define truth differently
than I do.
I always find it amazing how when a newborn baby is left in a trash
can (believe me that is horrible) that people are quick to judge
the mother and want to send her to jail, but if only a few months
before she had chosen to have an abortion there would be no problem.
From a relative truth philosophy what is the difference in a few
So, what are we to do as CWMs. First, of all you need to know upfront
you will be swimming upstream against the culture outside the church
and inside the church if you begin to be diligent to teach your
children about absolute truth. Listen to this quote from the book,
The Unshakable Truth by Josh and Sean McDowell, “The Christian
faith was then and still is an integrated and organic style of intimately
knowing the truth, being the truth in relationship with God and
others, and living the truth before the world around us, starting
in our own families.” (p. 41).
In our post-modern world it is not enough to know the truth and
spit out Biblical facts. There are many people who don’t even
know what the Bible is or believe what it says. What people are
looking for is does our talk match our walk. In other words, if
you are a Christian family do you do things differently than a non-Christian
For our children, they have to see us living out Biblical truth
if we are the only family that does. There is great peer pressure
in and outside the church on families.
Let me give you a few examples. Your son or daughter copies their
homework off of another friend, because they didn’t do their
homework. Is that wrong? Everybody does it, right? Yes it is wrong
and as hard as it is for your child to get a 0 that is what they
deserve, because it is not their work.
In our family, we don’t go out to eat on Sunday (the new
Sabbath after resurrection), because we believe in keeping the commandment
about keeping the Sabbath holy. Also, one reason many restaurants
are open on Sunday is for the church crowd. Those restaurant employees
can’t go to church due to having to work. We have faced a
lot of criticism from others at church for our stand in this area.
We have decided our children will not just date until they are
ready for marriage. When we look at scripture there is no precedent
for dating numerous people in your life when you are not ready to
get married. As a marriage therapist I think serial dating can lead
to serial marriages. Young people will quickly break up when they
don’t like what their boyfriend or girlfriend is doing. So,
when you get married and you don’t like what your spouse is
doing you get a divorce. Believe me in our church we are often looked
upon as being weird for our approach to dating.
Please don’t hear me sharing any of these things to make
my family look good. All of the decisions we have made have been
after Bible study and much prayer. We just didn’t make them
to be different. What I’m trying to encourage you to do is
realize that when we are Christ followers we follow God’s
truth. When we do that we will be different and the world will notice.
The biggest problem I see in youth going to church today and then
dropping church once they go to college is they had a lot of head
knowledge about the Bible, but they never saw it lived out. The
Biblical truth did not make a difference in their lives. So, it
was easy to leave the church.
Following Christ means our lives are radically different. How we
treat others, what we choose to do and not do, and how we stand
for truth. Truth is not “fuzzy”. There is right and
wrong. Believe me in this day and age if you are a woman of your
word, you will stand out.
What are some practical ways you can show your children each day
God’s truth? How can you demonstrate standing for righteousness
in an unrighteous world?
Till next time,
Kimberly M. Chastain
Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the
author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an
online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by
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