December 2011 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs

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Article – Christmas Over 2,000 years ago
Final Thoughts


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I guess it happens every year, but Christmas has really snuck up on me. Often at Christmas in all the hustle and bustle it is easy to forget to focus on our Savior. May we all take time out of our busy schedules to spend time worshipping the King of Kings.

Welcome to all our new CWM subscribers. We are glad you are here. The article this
month is one I wrote several years ago and decided to bring back. It is important for us and our children to know that the nativity scene isn’t always as pleasant looking as we would like to think.

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Article – Christmas Over 2,000 Years Ago

Often when we tell the Christmas story or have Christmas plays at our churches we romanticize the birth of our Savior. All of the children are angelic like (at least for a little while), clean, and have clean clothes. There is clean hay for the stable. Everything seems calm.

Let’s travel back 2,000 years ago to visit what it was really like that Christmas morn. First, of all Mary and Joseph had to travel over 70 miles by foot and donkey to get to Bethlehem. Can you imagine being 9 months pregnant and walking or riding a donkey for 70 miles?
Along the way, did they sleep outside or find shelter? We don’t know, but it could not have been easy.

Once they arrived in Bethlehem all Mary probably wanted was a place to lie down and rest. But, as we all know there was no room in the inn. How helpless Joseph must have felt and how weary Mary had to be. Then, the only place they could find was a stable. Most of us envision a barn. Yet, scholars often think Mary gave birth to Jesus in a cave. (Side note, if you have not seen the movie Nativity Story I would highly recommend it for its accuracy). So, Mary most probably alone without her mother or any female relatives gave birth to the Son of God. Don’t you imagine Joseph wished for Mary’s mother or his mother as well? I would imagine he wasn’t real excited about having to help deliver a baby. We often forget how young Mary and Joseph were. Many scholars believe Mary was around 14 or 15. Joseph was probably a little older. What an awesome responsibility for two very young people. Yet, Mary and Joseph were not alone. Angels and shepherds herald his birth. Wise men that are always in our Christmas plays probably did not arrive for another 2 years. God was certainly watching over Mary and Joseph that first beautiful Christmas Day.

As we reflect on Christmas let us not forget that the first Christmas was not the sanitized version we see in our minds or in our churches. There were animals with all their “glorious” smells nearby, no bed for Mary to give birth, and two very young people far from home. Yet, all they would ever need would be their son who was born and eventually he would become their Savior. Mary and Joseph gave up so much to be the earthly parents of the Son of God. They were willing to leave their home which they did not return to for several years after his birth.

What are we willing to give up for Christ this Christmas and every day of the year? Are we willing to die to self and live for him? Are we willing to seek his way and not the world’s? We may feel alone if we seek to follow God’s path, but we are never alone. Just as Mary and Joseph while feeling very alone that one Christmas morn were not alone. Jesus who came to earth in human form was with them and in their very presence. May we celebrate the Christmas season by reflecting on the best gift we have ever received, the gift of Christ. May we serve him daily in everything we do.

Final Thoughts

Christmas traditions are so important to children and to your family. What Christmas traditions can you start or continue that reinforces the real meaning of Christmas? Feel free to post your Christmas traditions at the CWM blog,

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to To find out more about her books go to For a free, initial coaching session send an email to