August 2014 Pearls of Encouragement for CWMs

Article – Six Words that Can Transform Your Relationships
Final Thoughts


The Voices of Christian Working Moms

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Author Kimberly Chastain


If your children are school aged are they heading back to school yet? My son starts his junior year of high school on Tuesday, August 19th and my daughter starts her junior year of college on Wednesday, August 20th. The summer as usual has flown by. Welcome to new CWMs that have joined us. Check out links on the side for various places you can join the conversation. Even if your children are not school age yet are there any new routines or schedules you want to start? I have found getting things organized the night before makes morning routines less hectic. Of course, there is always the shoe that seemed to disappear overnight.

Article – Six Words that can transform Your Relationships

During a day how often are you asked something to this effect, “How are you doing?” You respond, fine without even thinking. Even though you are having a really difficult day you don’t want to share your pain with others or you are not sure if they are even interested.

Can I encourage you to start using a different question? How can I pray for you? These six words have the power to stop people in their tracks and make them really think about their life situation. The question shows you truly care for the other person. When you ask the question you have to be willing to follow through and really pray for the person.

In our busy society with texting, Facebook, email, and other social media we often have lost the art of real communication. We have more knowledge about people, but we really don’t know them. Studies are showing people are lonelier now even though they may have tons of friends on Facebook. People want to be heard, supported, and cared about. People want a Christian that truly reaches out to them and their deepest needs.

Let me share some down sides to asking people how you can pray for them. One, Jesus may actually direct you to meet their need. Two, you may feel uncomfortable about asking or praying for someone. Three, Satan hates it when Christians pray. Recently, I started asking this question and it seemed within the day Satan started attacking relationships in my family and others as well. I truly experienced spiritual warfare. Yet, we are commanded to carry one another’s burdens in Galatians 6:2 and in Galatians 6:9 we are told to not grow weary in doing good. So, in God’s strength alone I will continue praying. Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. We serve a mighty God who seeks to be glorified through us.

Often, it is hard to start spiritual conversations with people. I have found when you ask people how you can pray for them they immediately soften. They may not believe in God, but few people will refuse being prayed for in their situation.

If you want to take this challenge of asking how you can pray for people I would suggest you start with your immediate family first and then broaden your scope. Write the prayer requests on an index card with a verse that applies to that situation. Pray the verse for the person and their prayer request. I have my cards on a notebook ring and carry them around in my purse. If I have to wait somewhere it is an excellent opportunity to pray. Use a method that will work best for you.

As CWMs can we be known by others for being prayer warriors? I want to be a soldier in God’s army and lift up others to Him for His will to be done.

Final Thoughts

If your children are not school age I would encourage you to ask their caregivers how you can pray for them. If your children are school age ask their teachers. I intend to email my son’s teachers and ask them how I can pray for them. Teachers often only hear criticisms from parents, how nice would it be to hear, “How can I pray for you?” instead.

Till next time,

Kimberly M. Chastain

Kimberly M. Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the author of The Voices of Christian Working Moms, 2 ebooks and an online Bible study. To find out how to receive coaching tips by email daily, go to To find out more about her books go to For a free, initial coaching session send an email to