What is Coaching?
By Kimberly Chastain
Recently, I have received
several emails asking me about coaching and what it
is exactly. So, I decided to answer some of those questions
in this article.
First, of all let me start
with what coaching is not. Coaching is not therapy or
counseling. Therapy tends to focus on the past whereas
coaching is often more future oriented. Also, coaches
are not paid friends. You certainly have friends that
are all ready giving you advice. Friends are often cautious
in telling you what they really think and don’t
want to hurt your feelings. Coaches hold you accountable
for the goals you set and an action plan to meet those
So, what is coaching?
For years executives and athletes have had coaches to
help them reach peak performance. Now, other people
are seeing the benefits of having a coach. Coaches are
a listening ear, listening to your goals and dreams.
Coaches help you put those dreams into actions. You
will find coaches are very action oriented and want
to help their clients reach their goals. Coaches also
hold you accountable for steps you plan to take. Christian
Coaches in particular focus from a Godly perspective.
Where is God leading you at this time?
Why would someone hire
a coach? People hire coaches for many different reasons.
Some people need help with time management. Others want
to find a better balance in their lives. Some may be
looking at a career change and want to research the
alternatives. Some people may say, “I’m
not enjoying my life and want to have more fun, how
can I better use my time?” Others may want spiritual
guidance in their particular situation. The reasons
people hire coaches are as varied as the individual
What should you look for
in a coach? Most coaches offer an initial free phone
session. You should see if the coach understands you
and really listens to what you have to say. Does the
coach ask you what your goals are or does the coach
set goals for you? Remember this is about you and your
agenda, not the coach’s agenda. Often, you can
tell in one phone session if the coach is a good fit
for you. Most coaching sessions occur over the phone.
So, your coach could be thousands of miles away or in
your city. Location really does not matter. Some coaches
also doing coaching completely over the internet. When
you do set up an appointment with a coach, make sure
you have a list of questions you would like to have
© 2004 Kimberly Chastain
About the Author
Kimberly Chastain, MS, LMFT is the Christian Working
Mom Coach and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
She was recently featured in the book the Myth of the
Perfect Mother. She is the author of “Help, I
Just Can’t Say No” and Pearls of Encouragement
for Christian Working Moms. To schedule a free, initial
coaching session send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
or visit http://www.christianworkingmom.com.
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